‘Dating A Married Man’
March 18, 2009
Are You Dating a Married Man?
What happens when you find the man of your dreams? You have found that someone who is absolutely wonderful in every way. He is a caring, friendly, responsible and really loves & cares about you. He seems to be everything you ever wanted in a man. Then comes the surprise of a lifetime: he’s married.
Now everything you once thought was wonderful is all a lie and you are just the other woman. There is a wife and kids somewhere else. He has a family and you are not part of that family. Normally when we know someone who is dating a married man we are in a state of shock because that is the last thing one expects.
Is it Worth the Risk?
Normally when someone ends up dating an individual who is married it is because she feels that she is neglected at home and no one is there to offer support. In today’s society dating a married man is a sin and adultery according to the Ten Commandments. This is the person ruining a family; the man you are dating will leave you feeling lonely most of the time always sidelining you for his wife and kids, and you will not be able to go freely outside without worrying about running into someone you know.
The Emotional Edge
When you start in on this relationship, your family will shun you, your friends will turn away, his family will hate you, you will eventually start to think negative about yourself, and to top it all off, you will wonder why a man would want to dump his wife and kids for you, and if he is doing this for you ‘couldn’t he just as easily do the same to you’. For all that you know, the guilt of destroying his family will weigh heavily on him and he will leave you feeling low, causing you to lose all self-respect, or it might go the other way and he might leave his family, citing you for the break-up.
Logic is the Keyword
Even though it might be hard at first, but you need to think of the relationship from a logical point of view. Sure, the relationship might leave you with a few exciting moments, but what about the endless guilt and low self- esteem that comes along with the loss. Will it be worth it? Most married men who venture out for a little excitement never even think about having an affair at the expense of their family, they are just bored with the monotonous routine of their daily lives.
If he decides to go back to his family you are doomed, and if he reluctantly decides to stay with you, then you will never escape the stigmas of being the one who broke up the family, causing fall-out sooner than you think. When the day is over it comes down to the facts, he just is not worth it! There are plenty of single guys out there who are waiting for you, and with whom you can have a normal relationship. So if you don’t want to waste your life with someone who, sooner or later, will leave you with a bitter taste in you mouth, then I suggest that you find a man without a ring on his finger.
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