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Important Tips To Consider Before ‘Moving In Together’
With changing times and generations, it has become normal for couples to move in together and opt for a live in relationship before taking their bond to the next level; marriage.
And although living together before getting married can make partners understand each other better, it could lead to several problems cropping up in the relationship with time.
That is why it is advised that couples opt for a live in relationship only if they are completely sure about their love and trust for each other. So if you are seriously contemplating on moving in with your boyfriend/girlfriend, here are some important pointers you need to consider before deciding about it.
Tips To Consider Before ‘Moving In Together’
Countries like India are only now waking to the concepts of premature sex and live in relationships. And so, if you are in a similar minded country and decide to move in with your boyfriend/girlfriend, the first thing you would need to do is scout for a house in a locality which does not perceive live in relationships as being downright sacrilege.
Choosing neighbors who are permissive or non judgmental is more important than choosing a good house. So if your prospective neighbors are hostile to you and your idea of living together forget the house and look for one in another locality where you will feel more welcome.
The best options for you in this case would be to choose localities that contain more number of student facilities and hostels, and less number of family residents. Ask your friends for help and try getting in touch with other couples who are living together to get ideas on where you can look for accommodation.
Forging Your Identity
Ok so you decide to move in with your boyfriend/girlfriend. Why would you want to hide it from others, especially the landlord? If you have taken a decision let the others concerned (mainly the landlord) know about it. Trying to hide your true status and telling lies to cover the same can land you in a heap of trouble later on.
Again, if you are deciding to move in with your boyfriend/girlfriend, make sure you reveal the information only to a select group of friends and family members you can trust to remain silent about the matter should they be approached. Don’t let anyone and everyone know about your decision to live together unless you want to become the hot topic of discussion for the day.
Living together means sharing. And that applies to finances as well. As a couple living under one roof, you would need to learn to share expenses accordingly. Make clear demarcations on who would pay for what and how much money would be spent for certain things like laundries, power bills, water bills, food etc. Make sure that these divisions are extremely clear and transparent so as to avoid major issues later on.
Although you are living together, it is strongly advised against you opening a joint account or opting for a mutual investment plan. Financial commitments can cause strain on the relationship and can become huge hurdles later on in case (God forbid you shouldn’t) you decide to go your separate ways.
Share And Share Alike
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The moment you move in, you would expect certain changes to be made in the house. On the contrary, your boyfriend/girlfriend would like things the way they are and would not be comfortable with these changes. This usually signals the start of trouble as you start bickering over the most trivial of issues like stockings on the television set or spilled juice in the refrigerator.
Added to this is the strain of having to share almost everything in the house from the bedroom, bathroom and living space to the appliances. So be sure that you would be comfortable with changes before deciding to move in together.