Leaving An Abusive Relationship
July 23, 2009
Domestic violence is not an uncommon phenomenon. This term includes all kinds of violence such as mental, physical, sexual, financial abuse etc. So many women all around the world go through this kind of situation.
Most of them remain trapped in such bad relationships. It is because either they do not have a place to go or they are too much dependent on their husbands.
On the other hand, some are afraid of what they will face when they get rid of the bad relationship. There is also the factor of children. A mother would never want to leave her kids behind. Thus, she would endure everything.
But the good thing is that there are some women who actually take the courage to get out of such a traumatic relationship and move on with their lives. And they are better off than the ones who are trapped in marriage for life. If one wishes to break free from something like that then they have to keep some points in mind.
If you have made your mind up to leave, that is fine, but as long as you are living with the enemy under the same roof, you have to know how to protect yourself. You have to know the signs of attack. And it is fairly simple as the abusers usually follow a certain pattern. Notice the behavior more closely and you will be able to identify the pattern easily and protect yourself.
You also need to make a plan of escape. You need to know where you should go when he is about to attack you. If the abuser abuses you physically then you need some place to hide. In this case, the two places where you should not hide are the bathroom and kitchen.
The bathroom is an enclosed space and he can trap you there easily. If you head for the kitchen, then you will give him the options to use any kind of weapon he wants. Try to move to a room from where you can reach the door to get out and ask for help.
Last but not the least, before you leave you need to seek help from people who can help you out of the situation. It can be a friend, family member or even a human right organization. Know the numbers of the people and do not hesitate to make a call when you need to. The best thing is to keep a cell phone with you. It will definitely come in aid.
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