Moving on after an affair is difficult. No matter how hard you try, it is not easy being friends. Anger, as well as other emotions, will arise while you and your partner attempt to make things right and better. You may blow up during discussions because your mind will be unable to accept the fact, that your partner betrayed you.
Before attempting any conversations regarding the affair, be sure that you and your partner agree to agree to express anger properly. You both need to have patience for each other’s feelings, for it will take time to get past the emotional outbursts.
Take it one step at a time. After all, if you and your partner have made a decision to make things work, then there is no need to rush and panic. Forgiving your partner does not mean you will forget what happened, but it will mean that you have accepted what transpired and are ready to move forward without bringing the past into your future as a couple. You have to build up trust with time and through the convincing actions of your partner.
You cannot put your partner on a leash and monitor him or her 24 hours a day. Re-building your self-esteem will help you forgive the affair as well. Being betrayed can do great damage to the way you feel about and look at yourself. You may feel less attractive physically and not worthy enough both mentally and spiritually. Get in touch with yourself and terminate your insecurities by finding ways to replenish the perspective you have on your being. Continue to tell yourself that an affair does not change the wonderful person you are and you are just as beautiful, desirable, intelligent and respectable as ever.
Exploring new happiness will help your relationship mend and move on greatly. Go on dates, get romantic and become better friends than before! Make a permanent note in your mind that nobody is perfect but everyone deserve forgiveness for their mistakes. If you have been genuinely apologized to and promised that it will never happen again, then open your heart and give him or her chance. You obviously love your partner and he or she loves you, which is why you have decided to forgive and move on.